Even more! I’ve been back and forth here going from working on band stuff and other web stuff. Then there’s Oblivion. Meh!

Question!

hey you seem like a really down to earth dude. and ive grown to appreciate your (sexy) band more and more. you have really helped out my friend, whos like a little brother to me. i was wondering if you could help me out with something. you see im getting really pissed off on how he is geting treated. he says he doesnt care, but he doesnt deserve the shit that he gets. personally im pissed at the fucks who do do this to him. i do know its not my personal buisness, but i guess im just defensive. also last but not least i think this girl from work is into me, she just broke up with her boyfriend, and she seems to like to get close to me. shes cute and all, but girls are freaking confusing as a bisexual. please help me.

Hell yeah we’re a sexy band. I’ll make sure I pass that along to the guys. Yeeeah.

I understand that you might feel responsible for your buddy’s well being with your circle of friends. Truth be told there’s not a whole lot you CAN do. At times when he’s having a rough time, just make sure you’re supportive of him. Eventually he will stand on his own two feet and remove those people from his life. Just don’t be one of those people, which I don’t think you will be. Good friends are hard to find and it sounds like you’re a good one. He will eventually stand up for himself, so just be there to get his back.

So you’re confused as to whether this girl from work is into you or not? I tell you I used to be BAD at picking up on signals. Ironically enough I would find out much later after the said female found a new fling after giving up on me. No fun.

Things to look for:

• When talking, any time she touches you she’s flirting with you. For instance if you tell her a joke and she laughs while touching your arm, that’s a huge signal.
• When you’re talking to her watch her eyes. If she maintains eye contact and looks at your mouth and back up to your eyes while you talk, that’s another signal. It’s very subtle but big.
• Eye contact is a fun one. For example, say you’re across the room and you look at her and she looks back. When she looks away (and she will), don’t break your eye contact. If she looks back and smiles or whatever, that’s another good sign. This last one is a tricky one and some guys are afraid to try it since they’ll be worried that it’s “staring” or “creepy.”
• Body language. This one can be tricky. If she leans towards you when you talk, that’s another signal. If she bites her lower lip while smiling at you, that’s a BIIIIIG one. There’s tons more, but most of it is intuitive. I would recommend watching some movies where there’s flirting and courting going on between a male and female. WATCH what the chick does when she’s showing interest in the guy. It’ll become very obvious once you understand.

Also, chicks do not normally make the first move. They generally do not ask you out on a date, nor will they move in for that first kiss. They will almost always be super subtle in their interests. They’ll THINK they’re being obvious, but from your perspective you really have to pay attention.

It does sound like this chick is interested. Test her a few more times and pay attention to the signals. Then make your move if you’re interested. You move can include just asking her out or, when the timing is right (NOT at work), moving in for some sloppy face melding. Some call it kissing, but whatever.

Here’s another question! I’m all, knowledgefacedguy.

Question: I’ve liked this one girl since we were freshmen. She’s been through a couple relationships between then…but nothing serious. Now it’s my senior year, and still haven’t gone out with anyone yet. I’m planning on asking her out. Now it gets confusing. Her best friend, also a friend of mine just got out of a relationship with a complete ahole. She’s all the sudden starting to talk to me a whole lot more. Oh, another thing that might not help also. My best friend likes girl #2, and he just got out of a relationship. Here are the options:
1. Continue with Girl #1.
2. Switch for Girl #2.
3. Look elsewhere, and just keep them friends
4. Explode.

I had to read that a few times to make sure I understand your dilemma.

I don’t know if you’re asking me to decide for you or not, but I really don’t know much about these two. Sounds like you’re very interested in girl #1 and a little interested in girl #2, so I would ask #1 first. Then explode. You can have #1 and #4 at the same time!

Good luck to ya!