More questions! Man, if I got paid for this, I’d have at least 20 bucks! Yeah. I could buy stuff like 50 tacos at Del Taco on Taco Tuesdays! Woa.

Here’s the question:

Friends:
I dont know why, but ive always felt like a third wheel when it comes to hanging out with people. the only thing i can figure is that i have guess what you can call a soft personality, dont swear, quiet, ya know stuff like that. What should i do?

This may be a little more difficult

Last year, i became friends with this girl. i thought she was pretty chill so i asked her if she wanted to hang out. SUCCESS!. Every friday, my brother, his friend and mine that girl and i would all go to the mall and experience crazy shinaniganz. Sooner or later, i started to like her more than a friend. she found out and didnt really care. as soon as summer hit, our friend ship had really drifted away bigtime, but we still keep in touch. Over time, my friend and her have gotten to be closer friends and ive been kicked out of the picture. The creepy thing is that he is 3 years older than her, EWWW.

Girls are freaking confusing, ARG! what can i do?

I think I know what you mean by third wheel. I believe that feeling “like a 3rd wheel” isn’t a bad thing, maybe you have a unique approach on things that people sometimes don’t understand? I had a group of friends when I was way younger that I didn’t relate to that well, and often I felt so different from them. Eventually I did meet some people that I did relate to more and ended up starting a dumb band with one of them.

The message here is that no matter HOW you feel, 3rd wheel or whatever, just be your own unique self and things will fall into place naturally.

The same thing applies to girls. The female gender can be extremely confusing because we think, “She’s giving me signals and we have fun together, but why doesn’t she feel the same way I do?” Oh the contradictions. Oh the backasswards logic. It’s all there. Nothing is as it seems when it comes to chicks. NOTHING. You might hear her say one thing, but she really FEELS the exact opposite. It’s mind boggling and has been driving men crazy for thousands upon thousands of years. Lucky for you you’ve got a brain and can figure this out. It’s really simple when you stop overthinking it and just use your judgment and intuition.

First things first with this girl – it’s too late. Sorry. It sucks, but it’s too late. Time to cut your losses and move on. Your window of opportunity left you a while back. It’s ok. This happens to all guys at some point. Matter of fact, many of us brainy quiet types get hit with the friend zone all the time. The best thing to do right now is to stay friends with her.

Not what you wanted to hear? Yeah I know. Trust me though, it’ll make more sense as time goes by. It’s essential for all males to have female friends. Keep her as your friend and be genuine about it. This shows that not only do you want her as your friend, you want to KEEP it that way. Keep doing those things that you always did. Stay in her friend zone. Actually you don’t have a choice – you’re already there, so that’s no problem.

This also shows that you’re over that whole crush you had on her and that could POSSIBLY become strangely attractive to her later, but don’t count on that one bit.

Now why is it so important to have female friends?

When you’re dating, having a healthy circle of friends is extremely attractive. Now don’t run out and get a circle of friends JUST to get laid or meet chicks – that’s against the guy code. You’ll get asked to hand in your “Awesome Guy Card” immediately. You’ll have your awesome circle of friends to be there to support you as you would them. Friends are far more valuable than any romantic relationship you’ll get in. Some may disagree with me. If you lose your girlfriend, you’ll always have your friends. Romantic relationships aren’t nearly as stable and reliable as your buddies, even the female ones. Just remember that.

Fuck, I’m getting a bit off subject. Har har stupid coffee.

Chicks are inherently confusing, but it’s even more of a battle if you don’t understand yourself. Heh, if you can’t understand how you operate how on earth can you understand others? Sounds crazy I know, but it’s really a great place to start to get all of this figured out.

That’s pretty much the first step. Beyond that is nitpicking on stuff like body language, eye contact, flirting, etc. That’s a whole other topic for another time. :p

So in a nutshell just relax, be yourself, pursue the stuff that makes you happy, and you’ll be ready when your quintessential female comes walking into your life. If she’s not here yet, you’re not ready for her.

Wow I impress myself. *flex*