There’s always some sort of unease in this business that I do. One of the realities and inevitabilities of leadership is the fact that you simply can’t please everyone. Despite how honest I am, and with all facts presented, there is no salvation for me in certain peoples’ eyes. I’ve spent a tremendous amount of time trying to understand this.
Despite ALL my hard work and efforts, ALL my honesty, ALL of my evidence, ALL the reassuring, there are times when it’s just not enough. I exhaust all approaches and methods I can think of to rectify problems and tough situation between myself and others. I do all I can think of, and I get nowhere.
Where do I go wrong? These are strange situations. I’m not used to being the “bad guy.” I’ve always been able to make things work. I’m a problem solver by nature (must be why I like programming so much), so when something goes unsolved it drives me crazy. I’m having an extremely hard time just letting things go. I just want to understand so I can move forward, but at times I can’t even communicate with the person(s) in question. They’ll cut all ties and I refuse to resort to childish methods that I feel would harm my personal ethics. Plus I’m not a child.
Does that make me stubborn? Refusal to try childish methods that might get me answers? I think it shows a tremendous amount of integrity; standing by my morals and being confident in my position. Those who observe my actions and dealing with those that are butting heads with me can easily tell that I do everything in my power to create common interest. I don’t feel I was ever lacking in my communication to those who refused to truly open up and discuss the issues at hand. “If you want to talk about it, come talk to me about it!”
“I’m here if you want to talk.”
“Call me if you need anything.”
I can’t tell you how many times I say this. Do I have some sort of hard-to-deal-with nature? Why do I give off that vibe when I intend the opposite?
Ugh. Such a frustrating situation. Even though I try to dismiss any hope of actually resolving the situation, DESPITE my efforts, I feel rather misunderstood and disturbed that the other side of the coin never took the time to understand my side (to avoid hypocrisy, I have rationalized the other side of my coin, and things still don’t make sense to me). I guess some folks out there are literally ALL about themselves and nothing more.
Disappointing. What did I learn?
- It’s absolutely impossible to please everyone. This is why we still have the two retarded political parties.
- People will likely NEVER pull you aside and actually confront you if they have a problem. They’ll be passive. You’re going to have to almost beat the truth out of ‘em.
- If you attempt to confront others, 90% of the time you won’t get the whole truth.
- Emotion will always overrule rationality, EVEN WHEN ALL CARDS ARE ON THE TABLE AND THERE IS NO POSSIBLE WAY YOU ARE WRONG.
- People will almost always blame someone or something else when they are threatened to look within for problems.
Make all the assumptions you want, this blog is about my general experience with people and not any single situation. Just thought you should know. 
Ahem. Anyway, I had a question come in, and it took me a while to get to it. Sorry ’bout that.
Name: Simon
Subject: Blarg. I think advice is needed.
Question: Pluh Rawrb-ski
I got a problem with my band
Basically theres me, a keyboardist and a bassist. We are an industrial metal band and stuff, inspired by many bands including the ‘stick, and yeah.
Anyway, we can’t find any decent guitarists/drummers and I could do with some tips.
Plus we had to change our bandname after some copyright thingiemajigabie and we’ve ran out of ideyarrs. Anyhelp?
PLUUUHHH FROM UK
Wheeelp, I don’t know how publication works over there in the UK, but start hitting up newspapers and online networking to get some recruitment going. Go to local shows, talk to other bands, make buddies. Ask ‘em if they know anyone who’s free and looking to join up a band. You’ll almost always find someone to join up. That’s how we found Alex – Phoenix New Times. RAWR! The band name thing is just gonna have to be you constantly thinking of ideas. Toss ideas around with your bandmates. No matter what, once you’ve told yourself you need to think of a band name, you mind will always be working on it. I thought of the Psychostick band name half-asleep at 2:00 AM.
AND… that’s all. I got a couple web jobs lined up (WOOHOO), so I’ll be able to make my move sooner than later. I’ve missed my Xbox. Plus Jarsh gets here in a few days – hooray for songwriting!
